Shakespeare here does not just
address his lover’s lies to him, and I’m getting the feeling that she’s probably
cheating on him, but that sometimes in life it’s easier to believe in a fantasy
than in real life. Shakespeare believes
in his lover’s words, even though he knows them to be false. Intellectually, he knows that it can’t be
true, but emotionally, he it’s just easier to pretend that they are.
And it’s not just his lover that is
having some problems with telling the truth, but so too does the speaker. He knows that he is getting older, and that
his best days are behind him. He has hit
and gone past his prime, but he not only refuses to acknowledge that fact, but
lies about it to himself as well as to his loved one. And it brings to mind the question, why is it
exactly that he must lie about that, and why is it that his lover lies about
being faithful? His answer is that love
itself is inherently deceitful. That
love disguises itself as trustworthy, but in reality it is often by necessity
inherently false.
Both the speaker and his lover are
aware of the fact that they are lying to each other, but neither cares very
much, partially because old people don’t like to be informed of their
ever-increasing age, but mostly because, by lying to each other, it allows them
to ignore their respective weaknesses, for one, the guilt of cheating on the
other, for the other, his age.
Age seems to be the biggest factor
to the speaker, almost as if he is simply glad to have love despite his
age. But, though he has love, he seems
very detached from her, given that he shows little concern for her lying and
cheating. At its most base, the poem is
concerned with the speaker’s insecurities about his own advancing age, and his
need to not only lie to himself about its existence and the complications and
weaknesses it brings, but his need to lie to others in order to decrease his
own ability to acknowledge it. By lying
to each other, they in fact relieve their own burdens by pretending that the
burdens don’t exist. Sometimes it’s just
easier to believe in the dream.
In fact, in line thirteen, the
speaker goes so far as to say that the reason that he is together with his
lover is because they are lying, their very relationship is the vehicle through
which he tries to purge his insecurities.
He does this through what I think is a rather clever double meaning with
“lie.” Additionally, part of the reason
that he seems to agree with her lies is that he wants to seem inexperienced to
her, like a younger man would be. He
doesn’t just lie to her directly about his best days being behind him, but he
lies to her through his pretended belief in her own falsities. This, of course, doesn’t really work, but she
too, suppresses the truth in order for them to continue their rather stupid
repartee.